U say I listen; I say U listen

I always wonder why people always say first love is very hard to forget...


1. Because it is the first time you fall in love and do all the special things with the first one?
2. Because you do everything for the one ?......
3. Because......


I couldn't think of any now.. maybe if u have different analysis, can drop a comment...


But I have a different opinion on this idea.
It is not the first love you feel it is hard to forget,
It is the unsolved puzzle you have for the first love....


When there is something happened..
Something which is unexplainable
and it happened between two people,
In either friendship, relationship.
You don't plan to reveal what is in your mind,
You don't plan to reveal how you feel,
You don't plan to tell what is happening,
You plan to hide everything,
Which you think it is the right choice to do,
Which you think it is right decision,
Which you think it is your right to do so,
Which you think it is the best for the one.


But before you think all these,
Have you ever
know what's in the one's mind?
know what's the feeling in the one?
know what's the one had gone through?


Most important,
Have you ever think from the one side?
Does the one prefer what you have decide for him/her?
Does the one will feel grateful for what you do?


Think twice,
The most important ingredient
either in a friendship or relationship
is TRUST.


Imagine,
When someone you like/respect/close to,
Hurt you in one way,
Either it is due to third party;
e.g. gossips which may not be true, but you believe is what the third party say,
e.g. parents give you a big sum of money for you to leave their children (most are in series ^.^)
e.g. anything that can happen....
Either it is due to individual,
e.g. you feel that both of you are not meant together,
e.g. you feel that the one is not suitable for you,
e.g. you know you are only flirting around,
e.g. you feel that the one fall for somebody else.


Because you believe in third party,
Because you believe in what you see, feel and listen,
Because you never approach/never ask,
Because you always have your own opinion/reasoning,
Because of ego,
You made the one suffer.


When misunderstanding occurs,
and it never resolves,
You will always put them in mind,
Because it is human nature,
When you don't know why it is happening,
You will always want to find out the answer.


An answer to the unsolved puzzle in your life.


And thus, it becomes something which is very hard to forget
till the puzzle is solved.

If there is a doubt, make it clear. Don't assume. Don't just believe the first instinct. 

9.38pm 19 June 2010